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One More Dance 

Written by Storyteller: Sarah Peppel   Comments: 11


Tempe, Arizona was cool the night Ernie Patino slipped on his black leather dancing shoes and left his hotel room to try out the dance floor in the largest studio in the vicinity, the Paragon Dance Center. It was a Friday night in mid-January and the night was clear. Ernie knew he might be gone for a couple of hours, a welcome break from the business that brought him to town.


Arriving at the ballroom, Ernie saw a room packed with strangers. Though he knew no one, he knew they shared a common passion – ballroom dancing. The Rumba, the Salsa, the Cha Cha, the Waltz, the Foxtrot, East and West Coast Swing and many more brought men and women together in tune to the music; some better dancers than others but all there to enjoy the night.


“Shall we dance?” asked Ernie, extending his hand to a smiling woman who caught his eye and the night began.


Years earlier, Ernie would never have gone to a dance hall to pass his evening. Imagine what his FBI friends would think! Then one day, he passed a dance studio in Tucson. He paused but didn’t stop. Passing it again, he paused again. Why would he stop? He had never actively danced before. He liked to dance but never felt very confident. Slow dances were easier. He was a published novelist and a private investigator who didn’t need a hobby. And yet, when he passed the studio yet again, he lingered even longer.


The studio reminded him of Richard Gere in “Shall We Dance?” who was intrigued when he, Gere, passed a dance studio one too many times also and decided to sign up for classes. Gere’s character learned to dance behind his wife’s back to surprise her. Only Ernie was a widower now so the parallel ended there. Ernie was still trying to breathe after his wife of twenty plus years died suddenly. It was all too fresh, too new, this single life alone.

Ernie did everything the books on mourning told him not to when Diana had her fatal stroke. He thought about his life in Florida where he spent the last twenty years and knew it held no strings after she had gone. Diana’s parents had long passed away and he was retired from the FBI, the job that brought him to Florida in the first place. Working as a private investigator kept him busy but in his heart, he knew it was time to leave. Nothing was familiar there anymore.


“You are too young for us,” said one widows and widowers group he tried to join. He wouldn’t be eligible for another decade or two. Time to go.


Within six months, Ernie quit his job, sold his house and moved away. After visiting a publisher in Arizona, he decided to try out Tucson. It was closer to family anyway.

With his free time, Ernie enjoyed traveling and seeing new sites. When he was home, he would work on his next novel but he didn’t feel it like he had with the previous novel. Diana’s death came as such a shock; he simply didn’t have it in him like before.

Surprising himself, one day Ernie stopped at the dance studio and picked up details on classes. Why not try something new?



“Don’t tell a woman you know how to dance if you don’t, learn at least one Latin dance (such as the merengue, salsa or the rumba) and if you know how to dance and she doesn’t, make her feel she’s doing a great job.”




Never one to stand out in a crowd, he spent the next couple of years learning but not dancing publicly. He wanted to feel confident before dancing in front of anyone. Practicing 4-5 hours a day, Ernie felt the therapy of dance sink into his soul and bring back the creative urges and instincts. He began to write again.


Resoling his favorite shoes over and over again, Ernie only needed the one pair to guide him through the intricate steps; and so he began to pack them on all his business trips. They were light and easy to carry. An evening once spent watching TV or walking around a strange town was now filled with fun nights and familiar moves. He might not know a soul in the room, but his feet knew the steps. It was great exercise too.


When the movie “Hitch” was released, the local paper interviewed Ernie about dance tips for single guys. In “Hitch,” Will Smith plays a dating consultant who tells men that women relate dancing to intimacy. Ernie’s real-life advice included: “Don’t tell a woman you know how to dance if you don’t, learn at least one Latin dance (such as the merengue, salsa or the rumba) and if you know how to dance and she doesn’t, make her feel she’s doing a great job.”


Many people take dance lessons simply to build confidence, possibly preparing for a special occasion, or simply to find an activity that is uplifting and fun that lets you get to know people in the community.


“My wife, Diana, would probably be surprised that I chose dancing as my principal hobby, but she would be happy I am doing something that keeps me away from the ‘bar scene’,” shares Ernie, adding, “If I had one more dance with my wife, it would be the Argentine Tango, very sensuous, very intimate.”


Ending the night at the Paragon Dance Center in Tempe, Ernie headed back to his room with a light spirit and a spring in his step. Any night that begins and ends with dancing is worth writing about and so he did as he later started his next novel writing about a gourmet cook who, by-the-way, loved to ballroom dance.



Bio: Ernesto Patino is the author of a children’s book, A Boy named Paco,and two novels, In the Shadow of a Stranger and Web of Secrets. When he is not working as a P.I. or writing a book, you can usually find him at a local dance studio where he continually strives to perfect his skills as a ballroom dancer. Learn more about Ernie’s life and work at

Thank you Ernesto, for sharing your Story with us.


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Member Since
Apr 2008
Chuck Stallong said:
posted on Oct 05, 2009

If I had one more dance with my wife, it would be the Argentine Tango, very sensuous, very intimate.”

I guess you can do that endlessly in your dreams... sorry my friend for your loss. Cool on the dancing shoes.

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Jan 2008
Suzan Kilner said:
posted on Oct 06, 2009

I agree, that line *really* touched me too. What a lovely thing to say, Ernesto, and I'm sorry she's not here to tango with you.

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Apr 2009
Jocelyn Bushell said:
posted on Oct 06, 2009

Ballroom dancing looks like fun. And it also looks like great exercise. Might check it out; get my man off his lazy bum  ;)

Nice story Sarah (Ernesto).

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Oct 2009
Ernesto Patino said:
posted on Oct 06, 2009

Dancing was an escape for me, but soon became my passion. It is something that I will probably do for the rest of my life. 

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Aug 2007
Kimberly Johnson said:
posted on Oct 08, 2009

That you and your dancing have a long, lovely life. :)

I'd LOVE to hear your FBI stories too. Do you think you might be posting some of those? I'd really read those too.

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Oct 2009
Ernesto Patino said:
posted on Oct 10, 2009

Now that you mention it, I will think about posting some of these stories. I spent 23 years in the FBI and I certainly have a lot of stories to tell.

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Jan 2008
Suzan Kilner said:
posted on Oct 11, 2009

I'd LOVE to read FBI stories. I imagine it to be just like the tv shows depict it (just kidding). But I'd really like to read those so I am voting that "yay" you should!

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Jun 2012
Kenneth Dunning said:
posted on Jun 27, 2012

I really liked your story and was wondering it you would like to share it on our website also:

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Oct 2009
Ernesto Patino said:
posted on Jun 27, 2012

Thank you for your interest in my story. It was written by Storyteller, Sarah Peppel. It is my understanding that it can't be shared on a different website without her permission.

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May 2014
ramona daniel said:
posted on May 06, 2014

Yes yes on the fbi stories!!!!!! Love your books!!!!!!

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Oct 2009
Ernesto Patino said:
posted on May 07, 2014

Glad to hear from a loyal fan. Just finished writing a new book featuring Joe Coopersmith, former FBI investigator, who was the protagonist in an earlier book, Web of Secrets. Look for the new novel in 2015.